peter weng, siyli’s chief business officer and head of global expansion, worked in the corporate world for more than 20 years and was a director at google before leaving to focus on a mission of mindfulness. given his background in information and data, it’s remarkable that he chooses to limit his access to technology. his home internet router shuts off daily with a tightly scheduled timer, and his cell phone is often in airplane mode on the weekends. but by avoiding television, mobile internet access and even meditation apps, he’s found more time to pursue, in addition to work, the things he loves—surfing (when he was in his early twenties, he surfed about 30 hours a week), music (he’s been a gigging musician in several countries), dancing (he was a semi-professional rollerdisco dancer) and his own mindfulness practice. ultimately, all of these habits have helped him learn how to be less reactive, become more patient, manage his time more efficiently and focus on what he values most.
visiting chan buddhist monks from taiwan were teaching weekly sessions at university of texas at austin when i was living in austin, texas. i happened upon the sessions while waiting for a friend who was doing research there. the teachings from those monks were so practical and pragmatic—it just made sense to me. my mindfulness practice started from that time 16 years ago.
it’s a bit frightening if i consider how mindfulness practice has shifted things in my personal and professional life. in my personal life, personal time has shifted to retreats and meditation groups. i previously served on the board of insight santa cruz, a meditation center in the insight/theravada buddhist tradition.
professionally, i left my corporate career—and the interesting things associated with that career, such as being invited to attend economic forums at the white house—to focus on helping spread mindfulness practices. throughout, i have striven to keep technology from dominating life, even when i worked in technology companies.
for daily practice, my preference is for breath-focused and body-scan meditations, both as seated practices and incorporated into moments and space throughout the day—on the bus, waiting in line, etc. i also journal at night. for journaling, i’ve been tracking my activities every day for about 30 years. it ‘s been incredibly helpful to review my journal each month to assess whether i’m living the way i would like to live. reading the issues that i write about has also been interesting to see how my priorities have shifted over time.
the best way for me to make time to practice is to prevent myself from being online at night and morning. so, for this, i’ve set up my internet router on a timer that shuts off my at 9:30 p.m. and doesn’t turn on again until 8 a.m. on weekdays or 10 a.m. on weekends. on weekends, it’s also off from 12 to 5 p.m. this prevents me from randomly clicking on things at night, so i can get to sleep at a decent hour, or wasting my weekend days online. in the morning, it prevents me from getting online right away and running out of time.
i find technology addicting, and with unlimited access to technology i end up spending time in ways i don’t find the most fulfilling. limiting my own access to technology has allowed me to devote more time to my passions.
in the mid ’90s, my colleagues found out that i didn’t watch tv—because i was always silent when discussions on tv shows happened—and convinced me to buy a television. i bought one that friday afternoon. the next morning, i spent the entire morning mesmerized by the moving pictures on the tv and missed out on beautiful surf conditions. i was so upset to have missed the surf session that i returned the tv that afternoon and never missed out on surfing because of tv again.
the weird social pressures, consumerism and negative worldview that are carried through popular media also concern me. i read the news every day because i feel that it’s important and aligns with a mindfulness practice to be aware of what is happening in the world, but i try to obtain my news from sources that focus on reporting rather than sensationalism. i have a subscription to the economist and, for leisure reading, the surfer’s journal.
in addition to time limits on the internet, i often leave my phone at home on weekends when i go out or put it on airplane mode to prevent me from reading email all the time. in a somewhat unplanned way, i subscribed to a terrible phone service that doesn’t offer reliable mobile internet service, so i don’t use my phone to access information online, except for google maps and email. maps i find useful, so it’s really email on the phone that i am most wary about.
i feel that sheltering myself from the bombardment of ads in popular media reduces the clutter in my mind. there are certain things that i hear others talk about that i think are related to the influence of popular media—concerns about status, wealth, etc. also, limiting technology allows me to actually do my mindfulness practices—because if i didn’t limit it, i might spend all my time online. i have a weakness for surfing videos on youtube.
i stopped using meditation apps. some of the apps are excellent and helpful in general. but the meditation app i liked the most gave me data about when i practiced, the length of practice, etc. i became obsessed with the data and would export it to a spreadsheet and look at my daily averages over time. it’s embarrassing to admit this, but i used to worry that if i meditated for a shorter time on any given day it would impact my daily average, which i’d have to make up later in the week. it was a striving mindset, which wasn’t a healthy or productive way to conduct my mindfulness practice. it’s better for me to not have that data.
the biggest impact has been around my reactivity. i’m impatient and react strongly to things. in my work history, i have often had challenges with being reactive when issues came up. mindfulness practice has helped me improve on this, and i’ve been able to reduce the frequency and intensity of expressing my negative reactions. it’s an ongoing process, but this was a focus area of my practice and definitely an area from which i’ve benefited.
i notice many small rewards regularly, which are fun to observe. i mentioned my impatience, and mindfulness has made waiting more enjoyable. delays are now a bonus because i can fit in some more mindfulness practice while i wait.
*this is the final blog in a series that shares the stories of siyli staff and their mindfulness practices. read the other blogs: “parenting: a daily practice in acceptance,” “loving kindness: two years and going strong,” “unexpected rewards,” “merging mindfulness with technology,” “cultivating a mind where ideas find you” and “use your strength for love.”